hope

Always say good things to yourself, tell yourself to be strong, work hard, and be confident, you can do it! But the reality is not always like this. I have been rejected over and over again, shot over and over again, failed to get the results I wanted, and disappointed in myself over and over again. Hope is probably the most attractive thing in the world. It cannot be seen or touched, but we still want it. Moreover, we dream that one day it will actually come true as scheduled. Hope represents a forward movement in our lives. Motivation drives us forward. Whether you are a world-class athlete, a chef who has won a gold medal, a professional and meticulous carpenter, or a painter who paints on the streets, we all hope that one day our works and achievements will reach higher levels. Athletes need to practice every day, at least with years of accumulated experience, to have a chance to be seen by the world. The Olympics is their stage, and in the four-year Olympics, they hope to continue to break past records. The chef can produce exquisite meals that are like real works of art, raising the taste buds to a new level. What about the painter? I hope that I will not only have my own personal exhibition, but also push my works to a new level of artistic sublimation. For example, the world’s art galleries will see that the value of my works is unparalleled, just like “Mona Lisa’s Smile” is unique. .

Hope is probably the most luxurious thing, because our most vulnerable people all want a share of the pie, and this kind of “hope” may also be the weakest foundation of “hope”. The war continues, and the daily progress of air raid shelters This is a “bright” portrayal of every day. Not all of us are “Ukrainian” refugees. We have to resist artillery attacks from foreign enemies. The air strikes have not ended, and the deafening rumble of artillery has not stopped. We are afraid, we hide, and we defend. , but my heart was filled with fear again and again. Every day is like a long year. It is hard not to stop worrying and worrying. Those old people who are still in Ukraine did not think that this would be their last “rest of life”. I looked at the news and this sentence kept coming. The words are still in my ears.

We all need hope, but hope is not enough. Hope cannot be infinitely amplified, which means that even if it is amplified, we can only get a little bit. We want to live a prosperous life, get rid of the epidemic as soon as possible, end the days of wearing masks on the streets every day, and return to normal life in the past, but such days are really far away, because the current epidemic will return to the past, and everyone is worried about it. I’m afraid, there are really too many new measures and new ways to deal with the new great changes brought about by the “post-epidemic”, and the daily life after this has already had an impact. As of April 16, 2022, A cumulative 500 million people have been infected with COVID-19, and apparently everyone has forgotten its official name! (Severe Special Infectious Pneumonia), this is not important, because in the days when we coexist with this virus, we only understand that the impact is getting bigger day by day. The number of patients who were intubated and needed treatment will only increase. The oxygen concentration is getting lower and lower, so that the supply of oxygen bottles exceeds the demand, and it enters the lungs from the nasal cavity, causing more damage. On the one hand, we are trying to understand the virus, and on the other hand, while resisting the virus, more people are still shouting outside the hospital , need to save my family!

Over the years, the harm caused by the epidemic has made people forget the original basic meaning of modern life, because the epidemic has made it impossible for us to resist the economic and economic impact it will have after this year. The United States is still the country with the largest number of infected people in the world. , the second is India, and other countries have suffered one after another. Comparing these numbers has long been meaningless. We have missed the first line of defense, the epidemic is out of control, and the entire global economy has lost half of its life, at least its economic lifeline is fast. It was discontinued, and we had to coexist with the virus until the end. Epidemic prevention fatigue became the final portrayal. I hated vaccinations. Vaccines are an urgent life-saving pill. It is difficult for us to gain global trust. Vaccines have become an issue of free will and the most controversial topic. , because after many countries began to compulsory vaccination, many people rebounded and did not respect personal freedom. There were problems with the third phase of clinical trials. Many experiments were criticized. The vaccine became a battle of offense and defense. The World Health Organization stood up to promote it, which made more people fall in love with each other – -On the one hand, we support it, and on the other hand, we oppose it. We have gone back to the old path of politics and started to tie the epidemic and politics together. Just like the issue of abortion, abortion is a human right, it is also life education and moral thinking, and it is also a physiological issue. , but also thinking about losing this life at the same time, should our life keep our own, or two lives?

The same goes for abolition of the death penalty. The death penalty does not exist in human rights thinking, so abolition of the death penalty has always been controversial in modern society. Both those who support and those who oppose it have reasonable theories to support it. The death penalty cannot effectively solve the crime rate problem, but it can deter the crime rate problem. It just depends on what social culture you are in. In Central and South America, public security has always been very bad, and only by robberies can we protect ourselves. Therefore, the problem of firearms has always been high. The police are also involved. Women’s rights are not protected, especially domestic violence and “abortion”. Of course, there are also There are problems with the overall education participation rate and gang consolidation, which inevitably leave some shadows in these countries. In the few years I have been in the United States, although I have not been as scared as Central and South America, the security of the United States – especially the dark night, or the racial issue has never been “solved”.

We know that the United States is a melting pot, but for many years, racial integration has been problematic. We just look for people of the same skin color. I have almost never seen white people find Asians to be friends with, chat with, or take the initiative to participate in. Unless there is a “relationship”, strangers cannot exist. It is really difficult for us to make friends with the whole world, so let’s really talk about “making friends”! When the individualism in this world becomes more and more “serious”, it is difficult for us to fully think about our connection with ourselves. Everyone is seeking to survive and wants someone to accompany me and understand me, but not everyone Everyone can open the skylight and open their mind to accept everyone. We all have narrow opinions accompanying us. Love is narrow. If we love everyone, it is the place of great love. Love allows you to see the “uniqueness” of the other person. So you can “only” love one person. Unless you are dissatisfied with your desires, love will basically remain monogamous for many years. We have long considered it “normal”.

As for being friends or maintaining interpersonal relationships, as time goes by, do you really feel that the distance between people has become closer? If they are tired of being together every day, they will quarrel. The epidemic has fueled the lifestyle of this couple. The epidemic has led to an increase in the number of domestic violence cases (the data is meaningless), because within the “framework” of long-term life, we must feel free to return to the “before” “You must tolerate some of your own living habits, and of course your “personal privacy” always needs to be protected. Therefore, you don’t want to be completely exposed to the sun, you just want to maintain a little “space” and be as comfortable as possible. , this is the portrayal of most people.

Bliss may really be heaven, or it may be a “happy paradise” that leads all the way to hell. We may suffer from the height of suffering, or we may get rid of the discomfort of the body, because only the soul is with us, and the feeling is already so empty and real.

Your hope, and their hope as well, actually exists, but the ideal does not exist. While maintaining “hope”, reality also floats on the surface at the same time. Just like when we see the situation we want, we really hope that someone will appear by your side “right now”, and we really hope that we can maintain happiness and peace. Reality is human desire. There are too many deviations between human opinions and human cognition. As a result, when we keep the closest distance to hope, we also open up its viewpoint, push it away, and want to keep it. People are really strange. ah! In psychological terms, there is too much “empty window” in cognition, and you put yourself on one point so that you can believe that you can do it. That’s why “Imposter Syndrome” is Will appear.

The previous chapter mentioned life believers, and regarded the proliferation of psychology as a very important “milestone”, because too much psychology has been misappropriated by those “clichés”, and I believe it really has no use. Psychology is not omnipotent. Psychology cannot be used as a way to see through people’s minds, cannot be used as a propaganda slogan, and cannot be used as the best explanation for understanding human behavior. At the same time, psychology cannot be said to be foolproof if it has psychology certification and psychology endorsement. Psychology is definitely not that truly magical either.

So, those “PhDs” with a background in psychology, please don’t use your “signature” as your selling point. If people’s hearts are so easy to penetrate, then how about asking you to serve as the head of state of a country? Because you know how to heal people’s hearts! But this kind of view has not stopped, but has been over-exaggerated. Optimistic people remind themselves of their optimistic views, but when they really think about optimism, they do not think of optimism itself, but the views of either pessimism or optimism at the same time. And as for the antidote to the real issue, maybe the point of view itself is not correct, but pessimism at this time may bring us a little bit of opportunity for optimism: pessimism is not terrible. It is only after death that you think about it after you have not lived, and you feel uneasy. This is wasted time.

However, don’t forget about politics itself. Everyone has a political wind. Scholars have their own views on human nature, but they also have left and right factions. Those who believe in human nature are mostly on the left, while those who believe in people first are mostly on the right. There are many kinds of words for people. If we bring it in from religion, people belong to human. From the perspective of evolution, homo is also a person. The word for person is person, and majority is people (of course, this is also the singular and majority. People think more), we can even use man to refer to people. No matter which one you prefer, the “man” you think of at the first time almost determines that people are not just single human beings who think. (I prefer to use species)

Political party group animals, even calling an individual with a soul, a body, and a spirit, create a species that thinks criminally, does bad things collectively, and builds a building together. It’s quite remarkable. There is heaven above and hell below; there is sublimation above and suffering below. Humans belong in the middle zone. Our actions determine which “Western” world we go to next. Bliss may really be heaven, or it may lead all the way. In the “happy paradise” of hell, a high degree of sublimation of suffering, we may suffer, or we may get rid of the discomfort of the body, because only the soul is with us, and the feeling is already so empty and real. Feeling all that, perhaps feeling that hope is really with us, only then can life truly have meaning.

It’s just that at the same time, the human soul and body are in the same head. When modern people love themselves, this distance is also shortening the connection between people, because we all magnify ourselves, leading to The whole itself is shrunk, and the real overall differences between people cannot be seen. Who do we love wrong?