Sex & Relationships: The Secrets to Unlocking Your Best Orgasm
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Published: March 14, 2024, 3:22 p.m. ET
Orgasms aren’t just a way to finish getting freaky in the sheets, they also have physical and mental benefits. However, understanding how to achieve an orgasm continues to be a mystery for many men and women.
Unlocking the Mystery
According to research, about half of women are not satisfied with how often they reach climax, and 10% to 15% of women have never had an orgasm in their lives [Source: National Library of Medicine]. Men have less difficulty, with only about 5% to 10% experiencing difficulty in reaching orgasm [Source: Sexual Medicine].
While every body is different, there are three key factors that research and experts agree on that can contribute to reaching climax more easily.
1. Stimulation
The right type of stimulation is essential to achieving orgasm. Applying the right amount of pressure and rhythm on erogenous zones, such as the clitoris, the penis, or the ears, helps build sexual arousal and activates the necessary muscle contractions. Experts suggest using a vibrator to find the sweet spot for the G-spot, as it can provide the perfect rhythm and intensity for orgasmic experiences [Source: Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology].
2. Mindfulness
Practicing mindfulness can greatly enhance sexual experiences. Mindfulness involves focusing your mind and body on the present moment. This can help you hone in on the sensations of the sexual experience and be fully present in your body. Mindfulness can be practiced in daily activities, such as meditation, yoga, or even playing music during sex [Source: Dr. Mintz, LELO Ambassador].
3. Communication
Clear and open communication about sexual desires and needs is vital for sexual satisfaction. Couples who communicate about sex and talk about what they need during sexual experiences are more likely to reach orgasm. It is important to communicate your preferences, guide your partner on what feels good, and avoid assuming that your partner can read your mind. Effective communication can greatly enhance sexual experiences and help both partners achieve orgasm [Source: Dr. Mintz].
