We live in an era where we feel we always have to be and do better, if you ask the dating app ‘Bumble’. Ultimately, that doesn’t do much good. They bombarded the phenomenon until the ‘betterment burnout‘.
although Bumble specifically aimed at singles looking for love, is the ‘betterment burnout‘ according to Dr. Caroline West, Sex & Relationship Expert at the app, applicable to several aspects of life.
Betterment burnout: always having to be better
Anyone who always draws up a lengthy list of charities on January 1 should stop doing so, according to experts. Always wanting to get better often ultimately leads to… unfortunately feeling. In the Netherlands, according to Bumble, 1 in 4 singles are always looking for improvement in the broadest sense of the word. From a healthier life to being ‘successful’: that constant urge for change can actually make you unhappy.
“Combined with the ongoing comparisons on social media this leads to burnout. The curated online personalities of colleagues and celebrities contribute to a sense of personal inadequacy, resulting in an endless search for our perfect self,” said Dr. West.
That unhappy feeling is not only caused by comparison with others on social media, but also by not complying expectations. Anyone who makes countless good intentions at once cannot possibly keep them all. Moreover, always wanting to get better, according to psychologist Dr. Becky Spelman for a lack of self-confidence and fatigue.
Dealing with this feeling
At Stylist gives Dr. Spelman tips for dealing with it. According to her, it is especially wise to get better at it little steps to do. Losing weight, getting a new job, making new friends and starting to eat healthier at the same time is probably too much for you. “Focus on progression rather than perfection four small victories,” said Dr. Gameman.
Limiting your social media use and surrounding yourself with people who support you also helps a lot. And although this tip may sound easier than done, according to the psychologist, it is important to do so at all times lief to keep to yourself. Realize that growth doesn’t happen in a day and that where you are now is also okay.
Are we going back to that dating life, where Bumble the research was originally based on, fortunately this also yields promising figures. Although a quarter of those surveyed deal with ‘betterment burnout’, an equally large share already found one themselves solution. 1 in 4 singles would rather focus on fun than on self-improvement. It is clear, especially among Gen Zers and millennials: becoming happy should be the end goal, not just getting better.
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2024-02-13 07:03:14
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