In “Eun-Young Oh Report”, a client’s wife revealed the injuries she suffered from her husband’s domestic violence.
In the September 26 episode of MBC’s “Eun-Young Oh Report – Marriage Hell”, Yoon Tae-yang (39) and Moon Ji-eun (33), who have been married for 5 years, appeared as couple clients. .
That day, after being diagnosed with her first child, who was 5 years old, at the development center, my wife cried when she was diagnosed that her language ability was “11 months”.
The wife drank alcohol and woke her husband to talk. Ji-eun Moon said to her husband: “What is the reason for the delay in early development? When I was 6 months pregnant, my brother came to drink with me today. I drink until I drink and I beat him until I hit him. I hit., and I can’t forget it “.
However, her husband relentlessly replied, “Then there’s nothing I can do about it.”
My wife said, “I don’t like going in because my brother doesn’t say hello to me. I hate it when I only drink alcohol because I remember it.”
In an interview, the wife said: “It’s not something we can talk about in front of people. But if we and the couple can’t work it out, it looks like it will happen again. third person. And personally I felt like I was painting a broken wall even after treating depression for some time. I don’t think we should talk about it now. “
Dr. Oh Eun-young said: “Actually, I was very worried. Even watching this video, I still worry. Because no one has the right to beat anyone. Domestic violence is never tolerated even once. I thought a lot about it. if it is appropriate to do so. I have a strong will to resolve conflicts, so I will talk about it. “
The wife confessed: “My husband apologized immediately, but I don’t think he ever thought about divorce. Since he is the father of a child, I think we lived together.”
She said: “It was the day before the wedding shoot because we celebrated the wedding while we were pregnant. I too was sensitive and my husband came in late at night after drinking. I’m pregnant and nervous about the shoot, but I became more sensitive to drunken looks. So I sprinkled them over ice water and asked, “Give me your cell phone! Are you eating with a real business partner? “I was 6 months pregnant and I was pregnant. Defenseless assaulted while my stomach was out. I had a bruise on my face and I had already given up on myself mentally by that time. It’s like,” she cried. .
The husband said, “It is true that I sincerely apologized for being wrong. But I know I was wrong, but I cannot resolve my wife’s anger, whatever happens, and I have no choice but to repeat the fact that I was wrong. “
When asked: “Are there still times when my husband is afraid of me?”, The wife nodded her head.
Dr. Oh Eun-young said: “My family is the person I have to love and protect. However, it is very confusing and scary because the person I have to protect attacked me. Trauma occurs. The traumatic scene repeats itself in the head. It is important that the person who has left the trauma deeply understands how much trauma he has left behind. It is helpful to understand rather than get frustrated by the repeated story. The psychology of the wife I have verified beforehand and it is still there.
Dr. Oh said, “It seems that recovery from trauma is needed. Pregnant women are not good at responding to violence because they have to protect the baby in their womb. When exposed to violence, they feel a tremendous sense of helplessness. We can. look into it for a variety of reasons, but I think there’s this part as well. ”
Also, Dr. Oh said, “My husband has a lot of energy and strong vitality. If he’s active and active, he may feel aggressive on the other side. You should be aware of it. And your husband is rational and logical.” You tend to focus. on how to fix it. So there are times when the fire button is pressed after being patient. If you’ve talked and talked and the rationale doesn’t work, the button appears to be pressed and wobbly. “
He continued: “A wife, on the other hand, is an emotional person. A wife is the kind of person who wants to deal with her emotions first and, when that happens, she feels happy. From the wife’s point of view, an Logical husband feels he’s not cheap. It won’t look like that, “she said, and her husband nodded.
Dr. Oh also said, “Another anger button on my husband is alcohol. Whether there is a blackout after drinking alcohol or something important the next day, I think there is a problem with alcohol even if you can’t control it. Don “Don’t drink. Speaking, “he advised.
Taeyang Yoon said, “I try to stay away, but when the stress level gets over, the beer draws me that way.”
Dr Oh Eun-young said: “If you shoot, you have to do something else. Drinking in a stressful situation is more of a problem.”
Finally, Dr. Oh Eun-young advised: “Your husband may have apologized, but he will have to sincerely apologize once again. And if your husband does apologize, please accept it as an apology. It will also be useful for your wife.”
On the other hand, “Eun-Young Oh Report – Marriage Hell”, which airs every Monday at 10:30 pm, is a marital solution from Dr. Eunyeong Oh, a national mentor.
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