The mother of three asked for help from Marta Láng’s home in Söréd

I meet Flóra in Székesfehérvár, where she currently lives with her three children. His parents have taken him in since the fire. By the way, everything ties him here: his work, the children’s school, training sessions as well. We start our journey towards Söréd, and we talk in the meantime. I would like to find out – perhaps also because of women’s solidarity – how someone can manage logistics with three children, work, take them to training sessions – and as it turns out – study at college… It would be nice to know how and to what extent he is alone, why he could not pay the house insurance, why did you decide to ask for help on the social media site and in general: how do you feel now, did you get out of the dead end? Because many people were moved, a lot of people helped him after he shared his story: “Dear friends, acquaintances and dear unknown reader! A great tragedy happened to us this week. On November 22, 2023, after my children and I got home from work, kindergarten, school, and soccer practice, unfortunately the following sight greeted us in our home. Opening the front door, thick black smoke and soot poured down on us. After the first shock, we called emergency services. They determined that our tumble dryer had caught fire, which had also taken our gas boiler with it, melting all existing plastic in the area.

Our great luck was that the fire “suffocated” in its own smoke, so the gas boiler did not explode and the whole house did not burn to the ground. Our home, however, became uninhabitable. I have been raising my 3 children alone for the second year since their father decided to completely withdraw from their lives and no longer raise or support them. Unfortunately, due to my financial difficulties, I was not able to pay this year, among other things, the house insurance. Now, my parents were able to take us in temporarily, but this state of affairs is obviously not sustainable in the long term. We want to start a new life, close to my parents, who support me wholeheartedly despite all their difficulties! I have never been able to maintain a house with a garden by myself. We had already planned to move into the city to an apartment that I could afford on one salary, but our plan fell through.

If anyone has a heart and can support making the house livable (and sellable) again so that we can start a new life with my children, please help!

The most important thing now is a new gas boiler and the cost of cleaning, which requires special equipment and procedures to remove this thick layer of soot from everywhere and eliminate the smell of burnt plastic.”

– It’s up to youI decided to share my story because I felt like I was completely alone in my troubles. I never liked asking for help, but now I felt like I couldn’t take it anymore, I was exhausted. But after I felt that it was all over and I wrote the my cry for help, the next morning I was shocked to see the amount of support I received in all kinds of forms, and my faith returned – she says, and tells about her previous life like this: – I went to give birth after college, I was healthy with the three children for nine years, and now I have been working for three years – begins Flóra, who we learn is a special education assistant with autistic children. He also tells a lot about his relationship, of which perhaps it is enough to share: in this area, too, he feels that he is left alone in every respect. “In the past two years, my parents and sister have helped me a lot,” he adds, adding that they also have many other difficulties in life, in addition to the injured brother. The whole family has a lot of burdens on their shoulders, but as he says, they carry them endlessly. This is also why the house insurance payment was missed, I know: – When I have to decide whether to spend on food or insurance, there is no question about what.

Who doesn’t know what it means to go into a store or gas station these days and hope that if I pay for it, there won’t be any extra costs afterwards. That the odds and difficulties could not be greater than this. Of course, looking from the outside, it is so easy to judge, to look for someone responsible, to blame the mother for everything done and not done. Because even though Flóra asked that “Neglect the hurts, because our lives are still in ruins”, everyone is capable of being smarter, smarter, more foresight – especially in the soot-smoky ruins of other people’s lives. But they deserve the least words. And more to those, thanks to whom the replacement of the boiler seems to be solved, who with their financial contribution made it possible for Flóra to cover the costs of the special cleaning, thanks to whom they will have furniture and clothes. Before Christmas, this is heartwarming knowledge, and perhaps this year the real gift will not be left under the tree for the children.

We arrive at Söréd, at the end of which a giant full moon standing yellow across the entire width of the street welcomes us and illuminates the pitch-black little wooden house. The yard is full of dirty, sooty or salvaged furniture, the windows are laced with webs of soot. Upon entering, there is a strong smell of smoke, and in pitch blackness we try to turn on the fuses so that the few saved power lines can help us with the light of the mobile phones. I’ve been to a few burned down houses, but you can’t get used to the sight. The blackened corners, the cracked panes of glass, the stubborn dust and soot sticking to the walls. Each speck of dust is a symbol of how our world can collapse like a house of cards and become nothing in an instant. The fire happened a week ago, but a lot has already been done to save it. The cleaning team will also hopefully arrive soon. So, even if things are not on track, at least there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Flóra doesn’t hide it, too much has happened in this house and it’s too far from their current life to keep it. He cleans it up nicely and sells it to look for a new life in Fehérvár. In all kinds of ways, but for one reason for sure: for the sake of your children.