Liesbeth never wants bad sex again: ‘Give me a younger Latin lover’

“A year ago I left for Portugal, in my convertible with my two cats in the backseat. That step came quite impulsively, it’s not that I always dreamed of this. Two years ago I visited a friend in Portugal. I loved it there. The sun, the food, the beautiful villages, and I noticed that the people are relaxed and nice. I looked into houses, and it turned out that they were still very affordable in the region I was visiting. had the eye.”

Two nice gentlemen

“I am currently having a nice house built, I am now living temporarily in an apartment in a pleasant shopping street. When I moved here I thought I would remain single. I had not met anyone in the Netherlands, so why here? I now think differently there. Within a year I have already met two nice gentlemen. They are a lot younger than me, and the sex is significantly better than with the older men I slept with in the Netherlands.”

“In the Netherlands I couldn’t find a fit man. Every guy over fifty turned out to be impotent. Many men only think about their work and paying the mortgage, and forget to take good care of themselves and in shape to continue with a healthy diet and exercise. I still feel really good about myself, also because this is like… orthomolecular therapist my profession is.

I am convinced that eating healthy is the key to feeling good. Nutrition affects everything, including your hormones and neurotransmitters. You don’t have to be impotent, lethargic or overweight later in life, as long as you live a healthy life. That’s what I do, and that’s what I expect from my partner.”

Fitter than many people in their fifties

“The Portuguese sun does me good. I shine and am often considered years younger. This also attracts younger men. In the Netherlands, men look much more at the numbers. I once dated a man who thought I was five years younger than him When he found out that I am actually two years older, it was suddenly over between us. Many men look for a woman at least ten years younger. I have often been rejected because of my age, including on Tinder. Even though I am fitter than many in their fifties.”

“In Portugal it is not difficult at all for me to get a younger man. My first lover here was twenty years younger than me and currently I am seeing a nice man who is ten years younger. In my opinion they are better in bed than the average Dutch man. They are not called that for nothing latin lovers. I find them more courteous, considerate and more focused on the other person’s pleasure rather than on their own pleasure. I find that a relief.

That’s how I know: I’ll never settle for bad sex again. By this I mean men who are impotent or whose penis does not remain stiff properly. I once had a date who enthusiastically exclaimed, “My morning erection is working again!” Then it is no longer necessary for me.”

“I have good sex with someone who I find physically attractive, with a healthy body. It is important that I feel that he also finds me beautiful and sexy, so that his thing stands up when he sees me naked. That is nice, feeling that you are desired. A lover must be attentive, pay attention to my wishes and simply know how it works.

By the way, I’m not into one-night stands. “I’ll just drop by,” I was often told by men. Well no. I have to care about someone to have sex with them. I’m not looking for soulless sex, everything is easier with butterflies in your stomach.”

“Maybe there is something more to the man I am dating now. I used to work in recruitment and selection, so I have good people skills. He is smart, active and enterprising, that is what I look for in a partner. And he has big muscles and firm thighs, nice too.

There is a difference with the past. Back then I often chased a man, but I don’t do that anymore. I let them hunt. I don’t need a man at all, because I can get by on my own and am financially independent.”

Door not quite shut

“It’s nice to have a buddy, that’s for sure. So I’m definitely leaving the door open for this guy, who knows where it will lead.

I have little family in the Netherlands anymore. For now I’ll stay here, my new house will probably be finished in a month. I hope to inspire other people over sixty to live a healthy life and choose for themselves. You create a beautiful life yourself.”

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