Should a fulfilled sexuality be accompanied by the use of a dildo? While the use of these sex toys is becoming more and more popular, Béatrice, 36, experienced no pleasure during her only attempt with her husband. This lack of pleasure gives him the impression that his couple is more stuck than the others. Tuesday, in Without appointment, the sexologist Catherine Blanc gave him some advice.
The question of Béatrice, 36 years old
My partner and I went to a hotel which offered us a naughty box with a dildo. We tried it for a few seconds, but without any convincing effect. It made me sad because I feel like we didn’t have fun like the other couples. Are we stuck?
Catherine Blanc’s answer
The interest is however to want to have fun. In this specific case, this dildo was not necessarily planned by the couple. And in the face of surprise, we can tend to ask ourselves the question of what we can do with novelty. From this dildo, which remains a symbolic penis, you should be able to do something and find it enjoyable. If we don’t take advantage of it, it goes back to the idea that our couple is sad.
In fact, not a lot of couples use dildos. But as soon as there is a communication on sexuality which is important, that the sellers of accessories are very communicative, one has the impression that everyone has their dildo at home. This puts pressure on all the marginal couples, who do not participate in fashion. In reality, dildos have always existed, previously carved out of stone, wood, vegetables, etc.
It has always been part of the fantasies and creativity of couples, but it should not tumble into bed like a buddy who arrives, it does not have to be. And even if everyone finds their account there, the difficulty is to be able to assume precisely to find his account there, without having the impression of seeing revealed for example a desire not avowed until then. In addition, in the case of a woman who lives an erotic moment with a dildo, if her sexuality with her partner is difficult, for the man it can be anxiety-provoking.
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