How to save a relationship? That man is unfaithful to me and I say I can too

My husband and I have been living together for eight years, we have two children. I had a feeling we were both happy in our relationship, but I learned from a friend that my husband probably has someone else. When I tried, he confessed. They say it’s nothing emotional, it’s purely physical, they are both happy in their relationships, it’s just release and excessive pressure from work stress. At the same time, he told me that he was telling me just because if I wanted to, I could find someone too…

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I can’t understand and accept it at all and feel completely dishonored. On the other hand, we are good together, I think I want to keep the marriage, but I don’t know if at that price. I appreciate his honesty, but I’m afraid that if I said the train doesn’t go through it, he would do it in secret. Can you advise what to do? Thank you.

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thanks for asking. At the same time, I must say that in such a complex situation it is difficult for someone to help from a distance and even from the outside.

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In any relationship, especially in its challenging passages, and this is certainly a very difficult experience, it is essential perceive yourself and your feelings and needs equally important and fundamental. Create a sense of security. In a relationship, the main thing is that you feel good and satisfied and that you can feel good alone and with the other person.

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Therefore, I think that in this difficult situation it is important to think about yourself. Try to organize good self-care. Try to allow yourself a sense of security if you have an idea of ​​how you could ensure that feeling.

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It’s a good idea to think about support as well psychotherapy or some form of advice. It’s definitely nice to have someone to go through a hard time with, someone to lean on and have space to figure out what you want for yourself. It’s nice to be able to talk about what you’re going through with friends, to get it out.

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How to resolve the relationship with your partner is up to you. If his infidelity hurts you, I don’t think it makes sense to force yourself to put up with anything.

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Last but not least, it’s nice to talk about all this with your husband, even if it’s difficult, and it would be nice to find the time and environment for such a conversation when you feel comfortable and have the strength to do so. Maybe he’ll understand how he’s hurting you. But I believe it only now when two people are really enjoying themselvesthen they see each other and know better how to proceed.

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If you are honest with yourself, you will surely find a good way. I wish you a lot, a lot of strength.

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Ondrej Frunc

He works as a psychotherapist and also works as a carpenter and carpenter. He has been studying and dealing with modern history, cultural and social anthropology and European ethnology for some time. He is constantly fascinated by interpersonal relationships, collaborations and their transformation in modern society.

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