Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzed the wife of a “sensitive boss” and the husband of a “stupid boss”.
In the October 24 episode of MBC’s “Eun-Young Oh Report – Marriage Hell”, a couple who met at a snowboard club and had been married for 5 years requested a consultation.
In the daily video released that day, the wife saw her husband as a housekeeper and constantly complained about his shortcomings.
My husband said, “I’m not meticulous. Even if I do the dishes, it’s not perfect, so we fight every time and then we’ll do it together, so you have to be able to do all the housework together.” She confided.
The wife raised her voice to her husband despite only having one pair of socks. My husband revealed her frustration, saying, “Every time we started talking, my voice was mixed with irritation.
Although his wife and husband were in the same house, he cooked dinner and ate with the children. My wife said, “I don’t want to eat together” and “I’m so angry I don’t even want to see her face.” My husband confessed: “These days I keep eating only two children (with my wife).
Eventually, my husband left the house and went alone to a convenience store to have lunch with cup noodles and gimbap.
Oh Eun-young said cautiously, “My wife’s attitude is a bit sadistic. It’s like, ‘You are the target of punishment.’ My wife analyzed: “I want to avenge the grudges I felt.”
The wife complained that she often took on the job due to her husband having no feedback. The wife said: “I was going out to eat with my family on Chuseok. I had to look for a restaurant, but I asked my husband to find a restaurant nearby, but he didn’t say anything whether he called or not. I waited. for a long time and I asked what happened, so I asked him after a while. He told me. There is no feedback on what I do all the time. It’s too hard to follow and talk about. In the end the I’ve done all.”
Also, in the story of the husband sent by his wife, ‘I suspected my husband was a psychopath. They don’t have the ability to empathize ”.
For example, my wife said, “I got married and my brother was in a car accident. My brother was hospitalized and my mother got a call while crying and said we had to eat and go to the hospital. But my husband was holding a plate and humming and dancing. I don’t know if it was nice to eat, but my husband did it while I was too serious. (Your) brother asked if it could be a car accident, and he threw a spoon and said, “What are you talking about?” and I left. I went to the hospital alone and my husband came back drunk that day.
My husband said, “It’s not like a university hospital, so I didn’t get hurt very much, but I thought my wife would misunderstand that there was a car accident. After lunch, I went to the hospital and I felt good because it was Sunday. I also said that I was sorry to my brother-in-law, but my core does not seem to be working well. “
The wife also raised the incident that her husband went on a date for a drink at night when he struggled with the heat in an empty hospital room, looking only at her face.
The husband said, “We had a hard fight the day before. Because I have feelings, I said, ‘I’m pretending to be sick again. I don’t know if it hurts or not.’ When I walked in, I was lying in bed. ‘ he begged.
Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzed the husband: “There is a subjective understanding of the situation. The degree of injury to the wife’s younger brother is also judged subjectively.”
Dr. Oh Eun-young continued: “My husband is someone who forgets what he thought before. He is a person who forgets an imaginary day. Forgetting is the right word, so even if he hears great news, he quickly forgets it. Sometimes it does not match the frequency. It is not someone who does not have empathy, but at that moment it seems that it does not have the ability to empathize. It is not a memory problem. When what you see or hear enters the brain, it is stored in the memory for a short time. I deal with this. I remember well when I do something that interests me or that I like. When I am in a relationship, I focus on what my wife says because I think I need to please her, because this is becoming more and more baby, I keep forgetting. “
My wife said, “I slapped myself like that. (My husband was just looking),” she said. As for why he observed his wife, the husband confessed: “Actually, I do it when Hye-shin is not looking. In the car.”
My husband said, “I started before Hyeshin did it. I know how it feels. After hitting him, he said he felt okay. At first he pretended to be dry, but next time he would rather do it like this.” .
The wife said, “I felt hurt and disrespected because of my husband, and I thought I was not worthy. So, while arguing with my husband, she said, ‘It’s all my fault’ and slapped me on the cheek and it hit me in the head, I thought I had to, so I blamed myself and I wanted to die.
My wife grew up independently as a child but was diagnosed that she wanted to be protected because her addictive needs were not met.
In other words, it was the lack of childhood and the scars on her husband that created the sensitivity.
Dr. Oh Eun-young said, “Isn’t the viewer nice to my husband? Some may wonder if he’s helping and working hard even if he’s clumsy. But being kind doesn’t hurt him. If there’s a discrepancy between the couple. , even if he is good, it can hurt him. At the time, I hated my spouse for not satisfying the most important part of me. Can I trust and rely on this spouse as a guardian?
Finally, Dr. Oh Eun-young should refrain from swearing and criticizing the husband of his wife. The situation is understandable, but it does not mean that it is understood. If your husband makes a confused face, tell him kindly. Even if your husband can’t do it right away, make a note or record it, he records what to do every morning until noon and check it out while you have lunch. You have to do a routine every day and you will get used to it, “she advised her.
Meanwhile, “Eun-Young Oh Report – Marriage Hell”, which airs every Monday at 10:30 pm, is a marital solution from Dr. Eun-Young Oh, a national mentor.
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