A well-known Dutchman has shocked many northern neighbors: three weeks after his marriage he was ‘caught’ French kissing with another woman at the Amsterdam Pride. His wife stood looking at it, was anything but shocked and turned in another lady herself. Kissing out of wedlock is in their agreement package. “We’ve had a good talk about it and it’s only fun when we’re together.” Can such a relationship work? Relationship therapists give their views.