Past Lifestyle Choices Impact Mental Health, Speaker Reveals

A 31-year-old content creator is speaking out about how his promiscuous past negatively affected his mental well-being, offering a cautionary tale to others.

From ‘Jack the Lad’ to Mental Health Advocate

Benny James, a Croydon-based creator, has been candid about his former lifestyle, which involved frequent casual encounters facilitated by social media and nights out. He admits this period, often influenced by alcohol, led to him not wanting to be alone.

James confessed that his constant need for external validation and a fear of solitude contributed to his choices. “Deep down, it was affecting me without me knowing, until I hit rock bottom,” he shared, describing how his outward persona masked inner turmoil.

He experienced significant anxiety and depression, which he attempted to self-medicate with substances to boost his self-esteem. This downward spiral meant he often felt unable to leave his home.

Over a decade, his routine included multiple club visits per week and extensive use of platforms like Instagram DMs to connect with partners. He initially dismissed these activities as mere enjoyment but now recognizes the underlying issues.

The Long-Term Toll and a Call for Change

James cautioned against the fleeting excitement of such a lifestyle, stating, “having the buzz around you and making money’ isn’t worth it in the long term.” The constant pursuit of attention and the stark contrast when seeking a family life proved difficult to manage.

His experience highlights the broader mental health challenges many face. Studies show a correlation between frequent casual sex and increased risks of depression and anxiety, with a reported 1 in 5 adults experiencing a mental health problem each year in the UK (NHS).

Following his personal journey, James has become a mental health advocate. He launched the ‘No More Waiting’ campaign, advocating for increased investment in mental health services, acknowledging the profound impact such lifestyles can have on individuals.

On Instagram, he posted a message of support: “To anyone suffering with mental health just remember you are a f***ing legend, because nothing is more scary than battling with your own mind every single day… don’t ever give up, speak up and get the help you need.”

He expressed gratitude for the positive feedback he receives, stating, “Now I’ve kind of just found myself in a good place, and where I promote stuff for mental health and things now I get a lot of love back from it.” James feels he has finally rediscovered himself.

For those struggling, the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) offers support from 5 pm to midnight daily via phone at 0800 58 58 58 or through their webchat service.