Letting Teens Navigate Challenges Fosters Resilience,expert Says
AMSTERDAM – In a shift from traditional “helicopter parenting,” experts are increasingly advocating for a more hands-off approach with teenagers,allowing them to experience both positive and negative consequences to build resilience. Psychologist Marieke Waanders emphasizes that shielding children from all difficulties hinders their development of crucial coping mechanisms.
This advice comes at a time when concerns are rising about adolescent mental health and the pressures faced by young people in a hyper-connected world. Waanders’ insights offer a framework for parents navigating the complexities of raising teenagers, suggesting that fostering a secure emotional base while allowing for independent exploration is key. The goal isn’t to avoid challenges for children, but to equip them with the “tools” to navigate challenges themselves.
Waanders explains that a resilient child isn’t built through a life free of hardship, but through gaining experiences – both positive and challenging. “The more learning experiences yoru child has had, the more you fill his imaginary toolbox with nice tools that he can fall back on later,” she says. “So don’t be ahead of everything, let your child experiment and make mistakes himself. rather,invest in a safe bond,so that he feels safe to share it with you if something bad happens.”
Beyond individual resilience, Waanders highlights the societal importance of raising children who can engage in respectful discourse.She believes teaching children to voice their opinions without dismissing others is vital in an era marked by polarization and unfiltered online commentary. “In a time of polarization and unfiltered opinions on social media, this is so important. This is the onyl way to stay connected. The ability to be resilient and take others into account not only makes the individual stronger, but also contributes to a healthier society.”