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Adolescence is often described as an island. Adults can see it, but they cannot truly access it, lacking a proper map. Marilyn Mesguich, a specialist in adolescence, created the podcast “Teen island” and the Live instagram “L’Parents Instacafé” to help adults better understand and guide teenagers.
Launched in January 2025,the podcast “Teen Island” combines Mesguich’s love for writing and her expertise in adolescence. She describes adolescence as “an unstable period, of variable duration, a physical and mental revolution.” It is also a frightening period of loneliness, wedged between childhood and adulthood, between the thirst for independence and the fear of failure.
The podcast features six twenty-minute episodes.As Sasha, a 16-year-old listener, says, “It’s creepy, she knows everything about us.”
The Avoidance Strategy
The frist episode addresses “the avoidance strategy,” explaining why teens sabotage themselves.This can stem from fear of disappointing others, low self-esteem, or negative experiences. They might sabotage themselves by not trying, forgetting important items, or feeling inadequate.
Mesguich shares an example of a student who, terrified of his French baccalaureate, unconsciously attempted to get arrested to avoid the test. He was not a criminal, but a boy caught in panic, committing the irreparable in the face of an insurmountable deadline.
Actually Trust
Mesguich also points out “the strategy of denial,” citing the teenager with a lovely revision sheet, complete and highlighted, having “just omitted to learn it.” Or the one who claims to have no memory for history, while knowing all the lyrics to jul’s songs. He is really in good faith. “He is not able to question himself. It’s always someone’s fault. The teacher, the bus that didn’t arrive on time, a pile of excuses the shiny teenager is fond of.”
What to do then? Encourage, value, and trust, “but really.” Not by pretending to trust them while secretly watching them. “The more you trust him, the more he will take responsibility, the more he will accept the limits.” Trust also means saying: “Maybe your not going to succeed right away, but I will always be there.”
“Stress Blocks My Head”
An episode highlights the stress that pollutes the teenager’s brain, preventing concentration and rational action. “The sentence that I hear the most from my students is ‘I’m stressed,’ ‘it stresses me,’ ‘it’s stressful.’ All stresses, actually,” indicates Mesguich. A poorly closed door, poorly smoothed hair, a student who didn’t say hello.Words like “bac,” “screens.” Sentences like “Have you revised?”, “Did you take notes?”. Attitudes, a look.”All this are ‘stressors’,” explains Mesguich. She quotes one of her students who couldn’t work as a stain on the walls “blocked his head.”
Hypersensitive Beings
Evergreen Insights: Understanding Teenagers
understanding the teenage brain is crucial for effective parenting. Adolescence is a period of notable change, both physically and emotionally.Teenagers are navigating new social landscapes, academic pressures, and the development of their own identities. Historically, adolescence was not always recognized as a distinct life stage. However, modern psychology has highlighted the unique challenges and opportunities that teenagers face.
One key aspect of understanding teenagers is recognizing their heightened sensitivity to social cues and peer pressure. They are frequently enough highly attuned to how others perceive them, which can lead to anxiety and self-doubt. Additionally, teenagers are still developing their decision-making skills, making them more susceptible to risky behaviors. By providing a supportive and understanding surroundings, parents can help teenagers navigate these challenges and develop into confident and responsible adults.
Frequently Asked Questions about Teenagers
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What are some common challenges teenagers face?
Teenagers often struggle with academic pressure, social acceptance, identity formation, and navigating relationships.
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How can parents support their teenagers’ mental health?
Parents can support their teenagers by actively listening, validating their feelings, encouraging open communication, and seeking professional help when needed.
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What are some effective communication strategies for talking to teenagers?
Effective strategies include being respectful, avoiding judgment, asking open-ended questions, and actively listening to their responses.
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How can parents help teenagers develop healthy coping mechanisms for stress?
parents can encourage exercise, mindfulness, hobbies, and spending time with supportive friends and family.
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What role does technology play in the lives of teenagers?
Technology can be both beneficial and detrimental. It provides access to information and social connection but can also lead to cyberbullying,addiction,and decreased physical activity. Parents should encourage responsible technology use.
Disclaimer: This article provides general information and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice. If you have specific concerns about your teenager’s health or well-being, please consult with a qualified professional.
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