Husband’s Erectile Dysfunction Linked to Mother: A Solution Sought

Black Mold Forces Extended Stay, Strain on Intimacy

A seven-year married couple faces a unique intimate challenge as black mold remediation at the husband’s parents’ home necessitates their month-long stay with the couple, potentially impacting their sex life.

A Long-Standing Sexual Hurdle

The wife of seven years revealed her husband experiences a peculiar issue: he cannot achieve an erection whenever he sees or speaks to his mother. This recurring problem has prompted concern, especially with the imminent extended stay of his parents.

“My husband and I have been married for seven years, and together for 10, and he has a very unusual problem every time he sees or speaks to his mother. If he speaks to her or sees her, he cannot get an erection for the rest of the day.”

—The Wife

The wife added, “I’ve always thought this was a bizarre quirk, but the problem is that black mold was discovered in his parents’ home—a lot of it. They are going to be staying with us until it is cleared out, which could be a month or more. I don’t think I can go without sex that long!”

Expert Consultation Urged for Deep-Seated Issues

Sex advice columnists **Jessica Stoya** and **Rich Juzwiak** suggested that the husband’s condition likely requires extensive therapy, ideally initiated years ago. They questioned when the issue began, noting its potential roots in his upbringing.

“I really try not to criticize people for waiting too long to tackle something. However, I have a strong suspicion that the husband’s temporary erectile dysfunction in response to his mother is going to require a significant amount of therapy. And the time to strongly suggest he consider looking into therapy was many years ago.”

—Jessica Stoya

Rich Juzwiak concurred, stating, “It really does, to your point, seem like something to at least talk about with a professional.” He also raised the possibility of the issue being tied to his teenage years, implying a need for a deeper exploration of his past sexual experiences and parental relationships.

Creative Solutions for a Dry Spell

With professional help potentially unavailable in the immediate timeframe, the columnists advised the couple to explore alternative forms of intimacy. They emphasized that sexual connection extends beyond penetrative sex.

“An erection is not the be-all and end-all of partnered sexual interaction.”

—Jessica Stoya

Jessica suggested, “If the husband is of the mindset that because he’s not hard, they’re not going to have sex, then you have hands. You can get sex toys and use your imagination.” She also recommended considering activities like exercise or charitable acts for stress relief if that was a primary driver for their sexual activity.

Rich encouraged exploration: “Figure out a different way for a little bit. It’s an opportunity to explore. Create a new frontier.” He also suggested medical interventions such as PDE5 inhibitors or cock rings as potential aids to break the psychological cycle. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that approximately 30 million men in the United States experience erectile dysfunction (CDC).

The advice concluded with a pragmatic outlook: “Tough it out. Hopefully, it’ll just be the month. It might suck, but it’ll be over pretty quickly.”