Constant Complaining Takes a toll on Mental and Physical Health, Experts Warn
New research highlights the detrimental effects of habitual complaining, linking it to increased stress, anxiety, and even physiological health problems.
While occasional venting can be a normal coping mechanism, a consistent pattern of negativity can significantly compromise both the complainer’s well-being and the well-being of those around them, according to psychologist Verônica Lima of Hapvida. Chronic complaining fuels a cycle of negativity that can lead to anxiety, mental fatigue, and emotional exhaustion.
“Complaining occasionally can be a coping mechanism. But,when it becomes routine,it reinforces a pessimistic view of life,impacting everyone involved,” Lima explains.
This tendency towards focusing on the negative is rooted in a phenomenon known as negativity bias – an evolutionary trait where the brain prioritizes perceived threats for survival. “The brain was shaped to detect danger. That’s why it’s so easy to focus on the negative and so difficult to maintain a positive outlook,” Lima says.
The consequences extend beyond emotional distress.Constant complaining can impair decision-making, reduce problem-solving abilities, and erode self-esteem. Those subjected to frequent complaints also experience mental fatigue, irritability, and strained relationships.
Physiologically, excessive complaining elevates cortisol levels – the “stress hormone” – perhaps leading to insomnia, high blood pressure, weakened immunity, and metabolic disorders.
To break this cycle, Lima suggests cultivating gratitude by focusing on positive aspects of life and acknowledging small achievements. She also recommends actively seeking solutions to problems rather than dwelling on them, and consciously adjusting language to avoid reinforcing negativity. Establishing boundaries with chronic complainers is also crucial for self-protection.
“no one is immune to occasional complaints,” Lima emphasizes, “but cultivating healthier habits of dialog and thinking is essential to preserve not only one’s own mental health, but also that of the people around them.”
