Debut

I’m 27 years old this year, have a stable job, good income, not too beautiful but easy to look at. Everyone compliments me on being both talented and charming. That’s why I have quite a few guys pursuing me.

Actually, until now, I have never felt so deeply in love with anyone. Meeting him, I felt like I had met the true love of my life. He is calm and mature, intelligent and humorous, thoughtful and thoughtful. He has many advantages that girls want to marry.

I told him briefly about my family situation. My house has two brothers. My brother got married and lived in the same house. My sister-in-law is very beautiful but fierce. I don’t hate my sister-in-law, but I also don’t like her personality, so we rarely confide and talk.

The first time I showed him my family photo, he looked at it for a long time, his face blank, then said that he knew my sister-in-law. They had been friends many years before, what a strange coincidence.

I told everyone in the house that I would bring my boyfriend home to meet him. I also didn’t tell my sister-in-law in advance that he was her old friend to create a surprise.

Unexpectedly, on the first day he came to visit, while everyone happily welcomed him, his sister-in-law’s attitude was very strange.

After he left, she came into my room and said that this man should not marry me. I was surprised: “Isn’t he your old friend?”. She said that it was not really her old friend but her best friend’s ex-lover.

He and her friend fell in love when they were students. The love life as I see it and as you tell it is very beautiful. He has many advantages and knows how to please his girlfriend, making her passionate and infatuated.

One day, his friend discovered she was pregnant and immediately found him. Instead of taking responsibility, he suggested that his girlfriend have an abortion. Her friend has a gentle and shy personality, is afraid of pain, and cannot bear to leave her child. She begged her boyfriend to take the baby. But he was cruel, saying that if she insisted on giving birth and raising it herself, he was not ready to be a father.

After that, he avoided contact. Because she was afraid of her parents, afraid of scandal, afraid of not being able to take care of her child while going to school, she finally had to painfully abort the pregnancy.

My sister-in-law looked at me, her voice decisive: “That’s a cowardly, cowardly and cruel guy. Men may not have this or that, but if they don’t have morality, they’re trash.”

I listened to my sister-in-law and was speechless because of confusion and surprise. How could a good man like you act like your sister-in-law said?

I immediately called my boyfriend and asked to meet him, he came right away.

After listening to my questions, he admitted everything was exactly as his sister-in-law said. At that time, he had just graduated from school and was on probation. In his hometown, his father had late-stage stomach cancer, and the family’s finances were extremely difficult.

Loving his mother, his younger brother dropped out of school and took driving lessons to earn money early. If you get married and have children during that time, you really won’t see any brightness. Moreover, his mother hopes day and night that he will work and have money to help her make ends meet.

My boyfriend told me that at that time he was only 23 years old, too young, and didn’t think too much. When he learned that his girlfriend had aborted the pregnancy, he returned to apologize, hoping to mend their relationship. His girlfriend did not accept it, they broke up.

“Later, when I made many mistakes and became more mature, I realized what a bad and miserable person I used to be. What happened, I had no way to fix. I don’t know if you ever wondered. “I wonder why you and I love each other but I’ve never asked you to be “intimate”? Because I’m haunted by my past about getting pregnant before marriage,” he said.

After listening to his confession, I thought a lot. His behavior in the past was indeed difficult to accept, but the current him is a completely different person. People have to go through a few times of foolishness before they can grow up. Who knows, maybe that bad past taught him to become the mature and responsible man he is now.

I thought I could ignore his past and only think about our present, but my sister-in-law still firmly objected. She said human nature is very difficult to change, blaming circumstances is just a coward’s excuse. She said, I’m blinded by love, afraid that if I keep moving forward, it will be too late to wake up.

She told me to try telling the story to my parents and brother and see what people thought. Parents are experienced people, their way of looking at things will be more thorough. If people don’t object, I have no further opinion.

I really don’t want my parents or my brother to know about this. I hope that if I choose to marry you, you will be loved and respected by my family.

Is it true as my sister-in-law said: Human nature is very difficult to change and am I being “blinded” by love?