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Handbook of Trauma Therapy

Allie Schwartz

Exactly published

PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is usually associated with major experiences, after which one is overwhelmed with intense fear or grief and tries to avoid any situations that bring back similar traumas.

CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome) is usually long-term traumatic stress, mainly from childhood emotional neglect or abuse. Sometimes the trauma begins in the first few months. Although the memory is not so clear, the physical But I have remembered those emotions and feelings that I don’t know why.

CPTSD is mainly divided into
Avoidant type: denial of the past, suppressed feelings, and neglect of pain, often extending to drug addiction, dissociation, emotional eating, excessive exercise, etc.
Intrusive type: often fall into anxiety again, hypervigilance is like a frightened bird, prone to nightmares, and relives the situation instantly.
Melancholic: Negative emotions, feeling depressed, often extended to a low sense of self-identity, usually because of living in a threatening environment for a long time but unable to escape, and there is nothing to do.

CPTSD patients are chronically under traumatic stress

CPTSD often feels shame because it feels unworthy, or its existence is simply a mistake, because children are completely dependent on their dependents to develop their sense of security and connection in the world, so being a parent is itself scary. Even if he is abused, it will be difficult for the child to recognize whose fault it is.

CPTSD desires to form an intimate connection with others, but memories tell you that it is insecure to form a relationship, so it is difficult for the patient to form a normal relationship.

CPTSD patients also tend to feel numb or dissociated, but regulating emotions is to reduce the harm caused by invalid emotions (such as falling into the situation again). When we are hijacked by emotions, it will inhibit our rational thinking. At this time, it is recommended:
❤️ Take a deep breath
❤️Leave the scene to calm yourself down
❤️Observe your emotions and state of mind, and think about whether these words are true at the moment
❤️ Conceive a phrase to remind yourself when you are about to lose control
❤️Raise awareness to be aware of your emotional impulse towards others
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We can practice swinging, first find a comfortable environment, slowly expose ourselves to (or review) uncomfortable events, and let ourselves focus on swinging between safety and discomfort in turn, so as to strengthen our tolerance and emotional EQ.

Persistent childhood trauma is a kind of “learned helplessness”, which is prone to cause pessimistic 3P: personal, universal, persistent, which means “it’s all my fault, I screwed up everything, I will never That’s it.”
Because we were raised by unreliable people, we often overgeneralize our own experiences, and through consciously challenging negative self-talk, believe these untrue thoughts, and feel ashamed of ourselves.

Shame is characterized by thinking that we are not good. In early childhood we are totally dependent on our caregivers. If the caregiver is abused or neglected, your biological drive to seek security must be obtained from the source of fear.
It is a very poignant fact to recall that these children fear their caregivers yet expect security from the source of these fears. Two opposing emotions lead to confusion about their identity, values, and sense of security.

There are four types of responses to CPTSD:
Fight, flee, freeze, please, traumatized children basically overuse these four types to get through danger.
Even though we’ve grown up, we still use these four methods to build moats for ourselves.

Breaking relationship dependencies requires a lot of mourning, and only when we truly mourn our hurting selves in the past can we slowly heal from it.

During the last consultation, the counselor thought that I should be CPTSD. At first, I was very surprised. I felt that I was not abused (beating and scolding) when I was a child. Why is it considered CPTSD?

The counselor told me that long-term verbal violence and emotional neglect can also be regarded as a kind, and I didn’t understand until I went home and read the books slowly. I am not only young, I am still in this emotional violence.

Although now I haven’t learned to mourn my young self (in this way, you will know how difficult it is to learn to mourn)

But I gradually became able to recognize what was an emotional attack, and realized that it was not my fault. Slowly learn to establish boundaries, to treat your emotions truthfully, reduce yourself to cater to the emotions of others, and strive to “fight” for yourself.

I hope I will get better and better.

2023-08-16 03:25:38

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