Rich Juzwiak Advises Biannual Bottom on Finding Accepting Partner
In a column for slate.com published on August 8, 2021, advice columnist Rich Juzwiak addressed a reader seeking a relationship partner who accepts his occasional desire for specific same-sex encounters.
The reader, writing under the pseudonym Biannual Bottom, described himself as a mostly straight man who wants a long-term relationship with a woman. He stated that he can only see himself kissing a woman, waking up next to one, and spending his life with one, while adding that he is very masculine and mostly dominant in bed as a man.
He reported that women in his past have either ignored this need or urged him to seek counseling to eliminate it, and expressed a preference for meeting a woman who is also bisexual or leans in that direction and can love him for all of him while actually getting turned on by him.
Juzwiak congratulated the reader on his resolve. He stated, “Congrats on your resolve to have no shame for your bi-/triannual stuffing.” He also commended the reader for ignoring his past partners.
The columnist suggested exploring bisexual-focused applications and sites like BiCupid while noting he had no personal experience with them. He also pointed to Feeld as an option that skews toward polyamorous and ethically nonmonogamous users. Juzwiak added that the reader might need to shop around or consider moving to a coastal area to find a compatible dating scene.
Juzwiak criticized the reactions of the reader’s past partners. He wrote, “I find it horrifying that women in your past have suggested counseling regarding your completely fine sexuality.”
The column noted that male bisexuality remains frequently misunderstood and stigmatized by potential female partners. Juzwiak expressed optimism that societal attitudes are shifting and becoming rarer, noting that he has to believe the world is changing enough.
The advice column archive piece outlines ongoing discussions regarding relationship compatibility and sexual transparency in modern dating.