Parents Navigate Digital Device Battles with Teens: Experts Offer Strategies
Sydney, Australia – As screen time continues to dominate childhood and adolescence, parents are increasingly facing challenges in establishing healthy boundaries around digital device use. Experts are sharing practical strategies to help families navigate these common conflicts, focusing on clear rules, consistent enforcement, and open dialogue.
the struggle to disconnect is a familiar one. A recent exchange illustrates a common scenario: a child pleading for more gaming time past a set curfew,met with a firm but concise “no” from a parent. Parenting experts emphasize the importance of swift, rule-based responses, avoiding lengthy explanations that can fuel arguments. As one example, a parent responding to “Everyone has iPads in their bedroom!” with “That may be so, but in our house, the rule is that we don’t,” followed by acknowledging the child’s feelings (“I can see that you feel it’s unfair”) while reinforcing the boundary (“but it’s a rule we have, and that isn’t going to change”).
Experts highlight the need to focus on the primary behavior – adherence to the rule – and address secondary behaviours like eye-rolling or door-slamming separately. This approach, informed by behaviourist Bill Rogers, prioritizes consistent rule submission.
When boundaries are tested, experts recommend employing curiosity as a tool for understanding. Phrases like ”tell me more about that” can create a safe space for conversation, particularly when children encounter concerning content online.
Moreover, the “WIN” model – What is going on, What is the impact, and What do you need to do next – provides a structured approach to help adolescents reflect on their online behaviour and develop self-regulation skills. This dialogic structure, as detailed in recent parenting resources, encourages boys to think through consequences before acting.
Ultimately, establishing clear, fair rules, coupled with strategies for addressing rule-breaking, can help families navigate the challenges of the digital age and foster a healthier relationship with technology.
