AI Fuels New Masturbation Habits, Prompting Relationship Questions

Experts say personal sexual exploration, even with technology, is healthy but needs balance.

As artificial intelligence increasingly integrates into daily life, its impact is extending into personal intimacy. One individual finds themselves in a quandary, using AI for daily masturbation that offers “wacky and fun scenarios” but is beginning to overshadow their desires for their partner. This situation highlights a growing societal shift in how people engage with their sexuality.

Navigating Desire and Technology

The anonymous letter writer, identifying as “AI Sloppy Seconds,” expressed adoration for their girlfriend and a satisfying sex life with her, averaging two to three encounters weekly. However, their daily AI-assisted masturbation has led to feelings of guilt and immaturity. Their partner has also voiced a desire for more intimacy, intensifying the dilemma.

The advice columnists acknowledged that AI tools for personal use are becoming more prevalent. They suggest treating such technology similarly to conventional pornography, focusing on its role as a masturbation aid rather than delving into broader AI ethics. The core of the advice centers on healthy sexual expression.

One piece of guidance suggested exploring whether reducing AI use might naturally increase desire for partnered sex. “If you think that less masturbation would yield more sex, and you actually want that, then by all means, cut back,” the advice reads. Experimentation, such as masturbating every other day, is recommended to gauge its effect on partnered intimacy.

Addressing Health Concerns in Sexual Encounters

In a separate query, a 26-year-old single gay man shared his experience with mild prostatitis, manifesting solely as hematospermia (blood in semen). While medically managed with a urologist and pelvic floor therapy, it complicates casual hookups. He’s seeking ways to engage in sexual activity without having to disclose his condition, fearing a negative reaction.

“Cumming is not painful, I’m still horny, and my doc has assured me I should still ejaculate on a semi-regular schedule,” the man, known as “Overthinking and Horny,” wrote. The primary challenge is the visual aspect of his ejaculate, which, while not a sign of an STI, can be unsettling for partners.

The response suggests practical methods to avoid disclosure. “Burying your load is the best way to prevent your partner from seeing its color,” it advises, recommending ejaculation inside a partner or the use of condoms. The latter allows for discreet disposal. Another suggestion includes finishing on a partner’s backside and offering to assist with cleanup, thereby managing the disposal process privately.

The advice also frames these encounters as potential indicators of a partner’s character. “Partners’ reactions will show you whether they’re worth keeping around,” it suggests, acknowledging the desire to avoid negative feedback.

Navigating Open Relationships and ‘Swapping’

A third individual, “Maximum Occupancy,” inquired about the common interpretation of “swapping” in non-monogamous relationships. He and his wife have opened their marriage but are not yet ready for group play. His wife believes “swapping” inherently means playing together in the same room, while he suspects it can involve separate encounters.

The expert stated that the wife’s interpretation is “more likely to be correct,” explaining that in swinging and polyamory culture, swapping often occurs in group settings. However, clear communication of boundaries is paramount. “People have boundaries, and they are best stated upfront,” the advice explains, noting that couples can either accept these parameters or decline based on their own preferences.

The response encourages open communication about personal limits, even when starting out. “You can explain to them your reasons for wanting the configurations that you do (you’re new to this, moving slowly, and full-on group play is off the table for the time being) or not,” it concludes. “Just be clear and let people respond in kind.”