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　　China Entertainment News www.yule.com.cn “I will pamper my girlfriend like a ‘baby’ and take good care of her so that she can rely on me with confidence…” I believe that many girls will be moved when they hear such a confession from a male guest, but on the program “If You Are the One” tonight (July 22), the three teachers bluntly said: Love should be mutual appreciation and mutual need, not care and dependence. Another male guest also shared his representative emotional experience on the spot. The three teachers suggested: It is very important for lovers to find a point of compatibility when getting along. A good love should grow together to become a more suitable person for each other.

　　Love is mutual appreciation and mutual need, not care and dependence

The male guest Fang Jingwei once dated a girlfriend with a strong personality, “She would ask me to delete all the contact information of the opposite sex, and she would compare me with her ex at every turn. This strong sense of oppression makes me very uncomfortable.” But the way the male guest yearns for getting along is the love full of pampering and dependence of his parents-“My ideal love is like my parents. My dad always treats my mother as a ‘baby’. , and then go home to cook for my mother, I am very envious of them! I hope that the other half of the future can be strong outside, but when they are with me, they can be more lovable, and I will definitely take good care of her so that she can rely on me with confidence.”

The topic of “care” between lovers has sparked discussions on the stage of the show many times. Meng Fei believes that the so-called “care” should not be a mate selection appeal between lovers. “Take care” may sometimes be a form of love, but it cannot replace the original meaning of love. “I can take care of myself alone. I want to meet someone who appreciates and needs each other with me. This is the meaning of love.” Chen Ming expressed his opinion: everything should be in a state of balance and coordination, and love is the same. If one party is taken care of by the other for a long time, the relationship between the two people will definitely be out of balance. Huang Lan suggested that girls must not have a “little girl mentality” when they are in love, and they should not always hope to be pampered and taken care of by boys. Boys should also realize that if you really love someone, you can’t just follow the other person’s comfort zone, but lead the other half in a better direction. Care and love between lovers is necessary, but love cannot stop at the level of life care, but also emotional connection, care for each other in life, and spiritual resonance can be called complete love.

The female guest Wang Yingqian, who longs to be pampered in love, did not hesitate to save the light until the end, “I just want to find a boy who can take care of others, and the male guest is especially in line with my ideal type!” How will the male guest respond? Who will be his heart-pounding girl?

　　It is very important for lovers to find a compatible point to grow together to become a more suitable person for each other

In your eyes, what color is love? The male guest Zhao Chenguang shared his feelings about the color of love: “First love is black and white for me. She is my white moonlight, but it left me with black memories. I was like a kite in her hand circling around her, but she was always indifferent. Looking back on the three years of wrong payment, I felt so stupid; the second relationship was a warm orange, which was as comfortable as the morning sun, but less throbbing; the third relationship was hot red, but too hot would make people suffocate, no matter how busy I was. Appearing in front of her, there is almost no personal space.” When he came to “If You Are the One”, what he expected to meet was a romantic pink love, “Two people are warm and sweet together, and more importantly, they should have a sense of space, so that they can get along comfortably with each other.”

Female guest Liu Xinlei said, “I really agree that lovers should have a sense of space, but I am a little different. Occasionally I will maintain a sense of space with you, and I hardly care about you; occasionally I am very clingy, and I always want to stick to you.” Getting along between lovers requires not only a sense of space, but also mutual understanding. Meng Fei suggested: “I have always believed that the most important point in getting along with lovers is that when things happen, the two must face them together instead of blaming each other. It is not easy for couples to break up when they quarrel, because they have been working hard to bridge each other and find a point of compatibility with each other. Lovers will encounter many problems in getting along. If you try to change each other forcibly, the problems will become bigger and bigger; if you understand each other, the problems will be solved and slowly move toward healing.” side. Give the other party more affirmation when you see the advantages, and less criticism when you find the shortcomings. You must have enough patience to communicate and run in. A good love should grow together to become a more suitable person for the other party.

Lin Qiwen, Liu Xinlei and other female guests insisted on keeping the lamp until the end. To the delight of the male guests, Lin Qiwen who kept the lamp turned out to be his smart push girl, “I believe in fate more, and I am moved by her insisting on keeping the lamp for me.” In the end, can the two successfully hold hands? Tonight (July 22) at 20:30, please pay attention to Jiangsu Satellite TV’s “If You Are the One”! His weakness is that he hasn’t had it for several years, and he will immediately be happy with French red wine;