Listen to Your Body: psychologist Virginia frutos Advocates for a Shift in Self-Perception for True Well-being
Psychologist Virginia Frutos is challenging conventional approaches to health, arguing that true well-being isn’t about changing the body, but transforming the relationship with it. Frutos posits that the “weight of your weight is not always in the kilos,” and that the core issue frequently enough lies not within the body itself, but in how we perceive and interact with it.
In reflections shared on TikTok, and highlighted in recent discussions, Frutos emphasizes the importance of internal dialog.”How do you talk when you look in the mirror?” she asks, pointing out that feelings of guilt after eating or shame about appearance contribute to a heavier emotional burden than any number on a scale. This internal pressure, she explains, is often a result of learned comparison and societal conditioning – the idea that self-worth is tied to physical appearance. “The comparison in this idea that if you see less, you are worth more. And that is also a burden. That also leaves marks,” Frutos stated.
Rather than focusing on achieving an ideal body type, frutos advocates for a shift in internal narrative. “Sometimes it is not the body that needs to change, but the way you look at it and treat it,” she asserts. This change begins with conscious attention and self-compassion, acknowledging that the relationship with one’s body is a process, not a destination. “And maybe today your relationship with the body may not be the most loving, because it is a job that takes time. But you can start by not talking to hate, because your body has always sustained you. And now it is indeed your turn to hold it. think this way,right?”
This viewpoint is complemented by the insights of nutritionist María Merino,who stresses that labeling foods as “good” or “bad” is unhelpful. Merino explains that focusing instead on “nutritional density or nutritional quality” fosters a healthier relationship with food.
Ultimately, Frutos’ message is a call to prioritize self-empathy and care. She encourages individuals to move beyond external demands and cultivate a supportive internal habitat, recognizing that taking care of how we speak to ourselves is fundamental to achieving lasting well-being - a well-being that transcends the limitations of a scale and focuses on sustaining ourselves with kindness and understanding.
