Eva and Anna have been best friends since elementary school, and when they found out they were expecting babies at almost the same time, they were thrilled. They were looking forward to going for walks with strollers and how their children would make friends. But instead of bringing them together, motherhood divided them.
“Eva and I were in contact almost daily for many years and we even saw each other several times a week. For the first year and a half after the birth of the children, we were still quite close and we actually went on those planned walks and visited each other often. Although differences in the approach to children and education began to emerge from the beginning,” Anna describes.
At first, according to her, it was just small things. While Anna gave her daughter snacks from the beginning with a spoon, Eva decided on the so-called BLW method, where the child receives pieces of food, decides what she wants and tastes it herself.
“Eva had something to say about me, saying that coercion with a spoon is outdated, but somehow I didn’t deal with it. I don’t like getting into arguments. But the topics in which, as we found out, we differ, began to appear more and more. While I rely on classical medicines for illnesses, Eva believes in homeopaths. She looks down on me for using regular diapers because she only buys the greener options. And when I confided in her a few times that my daughter had bought a glass of side dish for lunch, I saw complete contempt in her eyes.” says Anna.
Although it might have seemed that the children would bring them even closer together, the originally inseparable friends began to drift apart. In addition, the tension between them came to a head two months ago and they have not seen or spoken to each other since then. Looks like the friendship is over.
“When we were visiting Eva, her son ran up to my daughter while she was playing and hit her. I was expecting Eva to react somehow and yell at him, but she was playing a dead bug. But when her son hit her daughter a second time and Eva was still silent, I couldn’t help myself and lashed out at him saying that this is not done. Eva turned to me with an angry expression and scolded me that I would not raise her child and that I should leave them to sort it out between themselves. Her free upbringing is incomprehensible to me, so I packed myself and my daughter and we left, and since then I have not had any contact with Eva. I’m so sorry, but I’m definitely not going to be the first to sign up.” concludes Anna.
Source: respondent Anna
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